If you don’t kill your ego before it gets enough power, it becomes your biggest roadblock to success and happiness.
Sounds crazy right?
Ego can lead to lower levels of self-confidence in a very short timeframe.
Even over the small stuff in life.
Take the game of chess, for example.
I love to play chess. Or at least, I enjoy the game as long as my ego doesnât get involved.
Itâs a lot of fun when you try your best to figure out the best possible move.
But it all changes when your ego gets involved.
You would say that if you focus on making the best moves, you should win. And thatâs true. But funny enough, it never works the other way around.
When you start to focus on winning, you donât make better moves. Instead, you get frustrated when youâre not winning.
And frustration leads to desperation.
Itâs a mistake that happens outside of chess too. You want to achieve something so bad, that you forget to enjoy the process.
What happens next is that you feel frustrated when you canât get the thing you want.
Your ego wants you to win so you feel good about yourself. Yet itâs exactly the ego itself thatâs sabotaging you from winning.
The paradoxâŚ
Killing the ego before it becomes big is a great way to sustain a happy life.
Because once it gets enough power, youâll start to beat yourself up for small stuff.
Itâs a guaranteed way to cripple yourself.
That’s why you’ll learn 7 ways to kill your ego so that you can live a happier life.
7 Ways to Getting Rid of Ego
Confident people respect themselves no matter what. Their ego will never run their show. After all, you’re human and youâre doing the best you can. So here are some tips to get you in the right headspace so you can kill your ego.
1. Take responsibility. Focus on the aspects of life which you can change. Taking responsibility for these aspects will give you a sense of control. For example, if you didnât make up your bed this morning, do it now (and do it every day).
2. Stop beating yourself up. Life is pretty tough and everyone makes mistakes. If you know youâre doing the best you can, thatâs all that matters.
3. Focus on growth. The outcome doesnât matter as much as your transformation. As long as youâre growing as a person, the outcome will follow.
4. Take care of yourself. Donât feel ashamed for taking time off. Do something that you enjoy without feeling guilty about it. Youâre allowed to live your life the way you want to.
5. Donât speak badly about yourself. The words you say to yourself become part of your identity. Unconsciously, your brain registers everything you say. And if you keep telling yourself that youâre not good enough, your confidence will sink.
6. Show kindness to others. Whether youâre an introvert or not, we all thrive on social connections. And when you show kindness to the people around you, youâll be in a much better place in your own head too.
7. Donât value other peopleâs opinions (both good and bad). This idea comes from the legend, Gary Vaynerchuk. But think about it. The moment you value good opinions from others, it makes you vulnerable to bad opinions too. Appreciate compliments but donât allow this to become the validation of your self-worth.
In addition, check out these strategies to become more confident.
Whatâs next?
We explored the detrimental effects of the ego and how it can hinder your relationships, success, and happiness.
Key takeaways:
- The ego can lower self-confidence, hinder progress, lead to shallow relationships, and ruin joy and fulfillment.
- Raising awareness of your ego enables a personal transformation, unlocking growth and fulfillment.
- Kill the ego by taking responsibility, seeking continuous self-improvement, and practicing kindness and compassion towards yourself and others.
Resources to deepdive into the ego and confidence:
- Books: Best self-esteem and confidence book
- Course: Double Your Confidence & Self Esteem on Udemy
- Tool: The 5-Minute Journal for self-reflection and gratitude
Take action: Watch your mental state for an entire day. Set 15- to 30-minute reminders to catch complaints or negative self-talk. When you do, see the positive side of the coin and reframe your thoughts.
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